Being Fat and Going to Parties
August 12th, 2007Sigh…going to events like dinner parties and birthday parties is always hard when you’re fat. You try to stay away from the food as much as possible and everyone asks you why you’re sitting there drinking water, “Have a beer or a glass of wine!” Meanwhile you KNOW how many calories are in that beer or wine. I don’t know about you but if I’m going to have 300 calories, I’d rather have 300 calories of something good over a beer or wine.
When I’m around my friends, I am really relaxed but when I am around people I don’t know, I feel like everyone is staring at me, judging me. Yes I’m paranoid. It all has to do with how I see myself though. Last night I went to a party and definitely felt out of place. Everyone there was looking glamorous and beautiful and I felt like I wanted to crawl under the table and hide. I’m not the best mingler but I forced myself to get out there and chat with some people I didn’t know. It is definitely alot easier when you are happy in your own skin.
The meal time wasn’t bad, it was the dessert time that was tough. Everyone is eating dessert and the pressure is on you to have some too. Do you cave and have some or do you say thanks but no thanks.
Well, initially I was strong. I said, no thanks. Then the host came around again, “Won’t you please have some?”, fine..a small piece and of course they bring back what isn’t a very small piece and I ate it all. I’m weak right now 
. Losing weight sucks.
Don’t beat yourself up about having some dessert! Life’s too short to go without it, I say enjoy that little bit a the right times, it keeps the binges at bay
Though I get you with the being judged by people I don’t know - and quite often I stand there, frozen, feet rooted to the ground, too terrified to make a wrong move as so not to give the wrong impression about myself, but by being frozen, feet rooted to the ground, I am already giving everyone a wrong impression about myself. Bah! So much baggage >_
Comment by Marshmallow — August 12, 2007 @ 4:59 pm
I find that the hardest part of going to parties right now, barring the fact I can’t eat the food I want, is the fact that I am usually the heaviest one there.
Comment by Rachel B. — August 14, 2007 @ 12:48 pm
Ugh I know how you feel. There is nothing worse than going to a party and feeling like everyone around you is judging you. One of the last parties I went to over the summer, a distance relative told me that I should start walking and she kept commenting on how thin my husband is. I wanted to wring her neck!
I’ve decided that when I screw up from my plan I am no longer calling it a ‘cheat’ or ’screw-up’ - I’m calling it a refeed. It’s good for your metabolism to change things up and to “refeed” your body
Comment by Deb — August 14, 2007 @ 2:51 pm
I think it’s really sad that people feel the need to force dessert and other treats on people. If I wanted some I’d have some.
Comment by Chrissie — September 15, 2007 @ 8:23 am
At a Christmas party last year, my aunt took a plate with cake out of my hands and said, “You don’t need that. You’re gtting too fat. If you keep eating like this, you’re going to have a heart attack.” After a moment of embarrassment, it made me eat twice as much.
Comment by Angie — September 23, 2007 @ 9:20 pm
That’s what you get,you fat slut for caring about those skinny whores’ opinions. Who gives a shit what those asshole think about you? You determine your own reality,not them.
Bitches!
Comment by Kayla — November 4, 2007 @ 10:22 pm
I try hard not to be so afraid of “forced” desserts or the (usually imagined) judgment of others that I don’t go out at all.
Comment by Michelle — November 9, 2007 @ 1:32 pm
Stop making excuses, go hit the track and weights, then go home and cook some good healthy food. In that 15 minutes you spent thinking about other peoples’ impression of you coulda warmed up and busted out 2 or even 3 quick sets.
And for the record, you don’t look fat. But IF you feel that you need to loose some pounds, quit stressing and just DO IT.
Good luck!
Comment by Chin — December 2, 2007 @ 11:47 pm
im also very fat and i wish i was waz skinny but id rather be a fat girl with a wide chest than a flat chested skinner girl YEA
Comment by marissa — January 1, 2008 @ 1:09 am
i have the same problem with happy cakes. my roomate is so mean, he sits there making fun of me and calling me names like “a fat”. i enjoy eating cakes and other things that make me happy, but when he’s there making fun at me i go to sleep or there lack of cause i cant stop the itch that runs through my skin. its almost like a drug. what am i to do? i need help.
Comment by Arron Grandle — March 27, 2008 @ 8:10 am