Making friends
December 20th, 2006Making friends has never been easy for me as i tend to be pretty closed off and only let a select few “in.” A few months ago I got to know this girl and we talk about once a week on the phone, post on each others blogs and hang out every couple of weeks or so. Well, this weekend I ran into her husband at the grocery store. I had never met him before but I’d seen him numerous times so I knew who he was. I decided it was a good time to introduce myself so I did and he asked me how i knew his wife and had no idea who he was 
For some reason I just felt sad like maybe she doesn’t feel the same connection I feel or something. Rather silly and school-girlish for a girl in her 30s, but I guess I just feel it b/c i don’t get close to very many people.
I TOTALLY get what you are talking about. I am 35 and yet I had those same feelings happen to me last week. I met a woman at my WW meeting and we started emailing each other, starting to be friends.
I told her that if she ever wanted to go out for a coffee give me a call and she cooled to me almost instantly. I don’t know what happened but apparently she wasn’t ready for a new friend (I am new to this area, so I will ask anyone and their dog out for a coffee).
I was literally wounded in my pride a little bit. I thought - “Why doesn’t she want to be my friend? Aren’t I good enough?” And then I thought - This is HER problem, not mine. She doesn’t know what she is missing! We all get those feelings, though. It never ends.
In your case, your friend may just not have great communication with her husband, so don’t give up hope!
Comment by Melissa — December 20, 2006 @ 6:32 am
Moving around is always hard Melissa.. which may be why i usually keep to myself. Glad I’m not alone in my silliness though
Comment by fat girl — December 20, 2006 @ 7:08 am
Awww that isn’t very nice! Pity you don’t live closer to me
it would be fun!
Comment by beee — December 21, 2006 @ 4:33 am